I woke up today and went about my morning as usual. Checked my email, drank my coffee, and checked my blog stats for the last few days. WOW, a huge spike Monday into Tuesday, I hadn’t even posted anything. Turns out, the spike wasn’t because Rachel of House of Pinheiro commented on my post on the sewcialists blog (which was a real fan girl moment for me as I’m a big fan of her blog), it was because someone has added me to the hate reads section of GOMI.
At least I’m in good company, the woman who started the conversation about me, Snark Maiden, has started conversations about at least two of my favorite pattern companies: Tilly & The Buttons and By Hand London.
In addition to the other points which I will discuss below, she seems to have the biggest problem with the fact that I was wearing my bathing suit. My 1 piece “plain Jane” black bathing suit “that is too tight” that I bought at J.Crew years ago. I wore the dressing gown for the pictures the way I have been wearing it in real life, as a bathing suit cover up. Should I have worn it over a dress or my underwear? No, because that is not my nature. Every picture on this blog is real. I would say 90% of the photos are taken at 6:45 in the morning when I’m about to leave for work and the rest are from parties or events where a camera happens to be present. I don’t use Photoshop and with the exception of one photo where I lightened a nasty cut on my leg, I don’t retouch my photos.
To address the further points of Snark Maiden: The way the instructions said to insert the belt loops confused me, so what? It took me a few reads to understand. I’ve only ever top stitched belt loops in place, in seam was new to me. I was trying to give an honest review, if my brain fart isn’t helpful to anyone than at least I was honest.
In regard to the fabric, I thought it was implied that I purchased the recommended amount of fabric. As an avid fan of Gather patterns (see Mortmains one, two and three!) I find it highly unlikely they would list the requirements wrong, hence why I gave suggestions as to why I ran out.
In regard to my blog name, I’m sorry you don’t like it. I think it’s witty. I’m even considering getting “SEW GOOD” on the license plate of my Prius so if you’re ever in NH, feel free to flag me down and tell me just how puke worthy my blog name and slogan are to you.
I make my living as a writer and I cringe when people use the wrong form of words so I don’t even know what to say about the “native English speaker” comment.
And one last thing, what does SSSF even mean?
I know this is just a little thing, one mean person and (at my last count) 10 replies (mostly in my favor), but as a blogger who answers to no content schedule but my own, I wanted to open a dialogue about this. People are fat shamed all the time, people start feeds on GOMI all the time and say terrible things on and offline, but I haven’t been on the receiving end of such hurtful comments since the 8th grade, and as much as I’ve brushed it off, seeing that my biggest spike in blog traffic this month was because of a mean person hurt me.
I’ve heard and seen other sewers and bloggers open up about this type of negativity as well which gives me a feeling of solidarity. Abby Glassenberg posted the link to her GOMI thead on Twitter, Elisalex talked about the horrible things people said about BHL on the Reyna Lay Podcast, and Jenny of Cashmerette kicked all internet trolls back where they belong with her totally viral #CakeWithCashmerette.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but wouldn’t it be nice if Snark Maiden and all other trolls actually gave their opinion publicly instead of hiding behind a forum where there is no contact information, profile pictures aren’t even required and you can just say anything? I could have sent her a private message if I signed up for an account, but I have no use for being a member of that site. I believe in freedom of speech, but I don’t believe in bullying. Here’s a thought: Grow a pair and express your concern over my makes in the wide open comments section of my blog. Use your real name and let’s have a discussion.
I sew my own clothes for a few reasons. It’s fun, is mentally stimulating and because I got sick of trying to fit into standard sizes and not liking how I looked in most RTW clothing. I started a blog to document the things I make and maybe make some friends with similar interests. Wearing clothes that fit me well and are made of quality materials makes me feel good. My body is a frigen temple that deserves well-fitting clothing. If Snark Maiden disagrees, to hell with her.
So Snark Maiden and others who agree with her, if you would like to talk to me about covering up, or any other concern you may have with my sewing abilities. Please get off MY Internets and email me. firstname.lastname@example.org
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to work on my Bombshell so I can post more pictures of myself in a bathing suit online. Hell, maybe I’ll even make the bikini from Seamwork and really scandalize the world!